The Right Way To Look at The World

I've been watching the first season of The White Lotus and for those unfamiliar with the show, it follows a few rich families as they spend their time at a resort in Hawaii. Each family is massively flawed though one particularly caught my attention due to their conversations. The mother is a CEO of a multinational cooperation, the father is unknown but makes less than her, son is addicted to pornography and screens, and daughter is a drug addict with insane jealousy issues. They all have different ideas of what is right and voice them often. The daughter has a black friend who she brought, who both share the idea that "it's time for the white man to step aside" which is contrary to the mother who feels for her son, saying that it's not his fault and not he's being unfairly ostracized from society. The resort they are staying at used to be native and sacred land but the government and developers didn't care. Some of those natives now work at the hotel. Tha...

limiting belief

 It's late and I'm falling asleep but feel the need to write this thought down so forgive me if it's not organized well. 

I recently went to a party which is something I don't often get invited too. I was really nervous but I powered through by taking action like ordering the lyft or going to get beer. Staying busy like that keeps my mind from ruminating until the moment. After arriving at the party I say hi to the host and then am set free to socialize. Oh man, I did not like that feeling at all. I talked to some people I knew then found some people in the back who didn't scare me. We talked and they were nice people but just like me weren't in the circles they probably wish they were. I was able to go up to them no problem and strike up conversation but the thought of doing that with people I deem cool, popular, hot, etc.., is extremely daunting. 

This got me thinking about my limiting belief that creates this torturous scenario of not being able to be myself around people I think are cool. I don't know exactly what my belief is but it's something along the lines of "these people won't think I'm cool cause I don't go to parties often" or "they won't think I'm cool cause I don't do that much cool stuff in my life" you get the idea. This gets reinforced when I do try and talk to someone and I get all caught up in thought of how I should please this person to get them to like me. They can consciously or unconsciously probably sense this and walk away. 

So what I want to practice is being aware of this limiting belief, and just like taking action to go to the party, I take action to put myself in situations that challenge this belief. 

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