picturing a healthy male role model

 As the title suggests this is an exercise in determining what traits I deem a mature and healthy male to have.

In no particular order, I'm going to ramble a bit. 

- Strong

- Protective

- Lifts people up

- Educates rather than shames

- Stands up for what he believes in

- Is competitive but mature about losing

- Works with others and sees their value

- Has uncomfortable conversations to clarify a conflict

- Has a consistent personality and belief system that doesn't change depending on who he's around

- Provides for himself and invests in his future

- Has fun 

- Is a role model

I'm a little hesitant writing these down, in theory I do believe all these things are good traits and I would love to try and embody each and every one but deep down I feel i'm going to feel shame for not living up to these all the time. So I think it's good to know what I want to become, I also need to be cautious of how forceful I become against myself.