Hitching onto realities

 I met a man who lived in Costa Rica for 4 years. I had just been there and loved it so much so we got to talking. We both shared parts of our lives but I soon noticed, like I do with many people I admire–I begin to think of him as god and his words as gospel. I detach from my own sense of reality and goals and listen intensely to theirs.  There's a shame in pursuing what you believe and trusting your gut. Often you don't want to tell people. What else can you do but reflect and continue your pursuit? Nothing.

expectations

 I can't help but think of "500 Days of Summer" when talking about expectations. For those who don't know the movie follows a man in search of love. He often finds himself in situations that are totally normal and OKAY but since he has a massive expectation set on it, he sets himself up for failure. The reality is that you can't always get what you want but you get what you need. Love that lyric. 

In my case, I've been better about noticing the expectations I have. For example the need to get laid if I go out. Typically this resulted in me acting like a jackass to women and to my friends. Coincidentally it also didn't get laid. Even if the night was by all means a win, if it didn't live up to that standard I would be sad.

So for 2026 I'm going to be open to the limitless possibilities the world throws my way. Accept the challenges, perils, and opportunities. Stop putting expectations on how things should be or how you think people reacted. Be present, be you, and keep going. 

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